If emotions feel distant, hard to name, or like they somehow belong to other people — there's a word for that. Most people who have it have never heard it.
Tools and guides written from lived experience, not a textbook.
Alexithymia isn't a diagnosis. It's a trait — a difficulty identifying, describing, and understanding your own emotions. It sits on a spectrum, affects roughly one in ten people, and is considerably more common in men and in neurodivergent people.
If you've ever been told you're cold, distant, or hard to read — and never understood why — this might be the word you've been missing.
The feelings aren't absent. The access to them is. That's a meaningful difference, and it changes what actually helps.
See the Progress Tracker →You don't need everything at once. Start with understanding.
Plain-English guides written from lived experience — what alexithymia actually is, how it shows up, and why most standard advice misses the point completely.
About this site →The Alexithymia Progress Tracker gives you a baseline score on day one, then tracks your improvement week by week — so you can answer "am I actually getting better?" with a number.
Get the Tracker →Scripts, toolkits, and field guides for the moments when you go blank and need something to reach for. More tools coming soon.
Get notified →Built on the TAS-20 — the most validated alexithymia measure available. Take a baseline today, check in weekly for two minutes, and watch your score move.
The only self-tracking tool built specifically for alexithymia. Works in any browser, offline, no account needed.
I'm Pete. I spent nearly five decades not knowing why emotions felt so out of reach — not absent, just inaccessible. Then, in my mid-sixties, I came across the word alexithymia and nearly fifty years of confusion started to make sense.
This site is what I wish had existed then. The tools here aren't written by a clinician. They're written by someone who's still figuring it out, one day at a time — and who wanted something practical to reach for, not another workbook that assumed you could already feel things before you started.
If you recognise yourself in any of this, you're in the right place.
The Late Discovery Starter Pack, the Blank Moment Toolkit, the Partner's Survival Guide — all in progress. Get notified when they're ready.
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